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Hi friends! I cannot remember which author said this, but I once read a sentence that was similar to, “Life isn’t 100% of any one thing.” I’ve been feeling this very acutely lately. One moment, I’m the passenger princess in my wife’s car and we’re picking up some takeout for dinner and then two exits from home, tears start pouring out of my eyes. The debilitating grief comes and goes and so do the happy things. I absolutely cannot control or schedule when and how the grief hits so I am focusing on the things I can control, which is scheduling and making space for joy.