Volume 3, Issue 15: On Avoidance

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Hi friends! Today I want to talk about a recurring theme in my life because I find that if I tweet about it or talk about it to friends it tends to resonate more than I imagine. The theme is: avoidance! Avoidance of what? Literally anything that I imagine would cause me a modicum of anxiety or discomfort or that might be “hard” or “stressful” or “unfun.”

Whatever thing I’m avoiding at the moment starts to become even more scary the longer I avoid it. I start to build it up in my head. It becomes this terrifying kaiju that I’m not only avoiding but beginning to think that I couldn’t even conquer if I tried. Sometimes, not all the time, but sometimes the magical thinking creeps in. Like, maybe something will magically fix itself or no longer be an issue if I just avoid it.