Hi friends! Today I want to talk about something I have been working on that I am by no means great at. Or even good at. It is a constant struggle for me and has been for many years. It’s the idea of

Just because I can do something, doesn’t mean I should.

It is a battle I fight both personally and professionally. I volunteer myself to help with things (my time, my energy, my resources, my labor) far too much and I often do it without being asked. I am spread so thin mostly because of my own doing. My loved ones aren’t necessarily asking too much of me, it’s that I jump up and offer, even when I know my cup is empty.

There are so many things I can trace this behavior back to. My Catholic upbringing. My eagerness to help. My love of problem-solving. My desperate need to create homework for myself so that I can get karmic gold stars and cross things off a never-ending to do list. Adults volun-telling me to help with things when I was growing up with, “Oh, Suzi [my nickname] can do this,” and if I drew a boundary, then I was seen as being disagreeable. But as I’ve said before, no matter what got me here, it’s my responsibility to be better.